Wednesday, December 27, 2006

Monday, December 25, 2006

lately, my gf has been showing symptoms of being non-committal when it comes to being my wedding coordinator - a job that she has always been saying she would help me with when i get married.

I find that extemely annoying to say the least because i have always thought that she wanted to do me the favour since that's her forte and because she has said so and I have expected her to fill the position naturally.

today Christmas morning I sense the grudginess in her when I talked about her "job" and my expectation that if anything goes wrong I will come after her.

I said the second part because she has forgotten all the details that I have talked to her about.
And I wanted her to be a little more zealous in the job and not adding to another one of my woes.
I already have enough on my plate at the moment.

perhaps she feels this way because she's not being paid or so she thinks?
or is it because she has done her friends' wedding and she's now tired of it?

I just find that if that's the reason, then she's not being very fair to me.
And I did not intend for her to do it for free.

i am beginning to think of alternatives to having another coordinator if she doesnt want the job. I rather she tell me now than to let me know last minute.

while i hope that she will continue to be my coordinator because she's been a very close friend of mine for more than 10 years, i will gladly remove her from that position if she doesnt feel like taking it on.

Because I would rather my wedding goes on without a hitch than to worry about all the details on the day itself.

Labels: disappointment, expectations, friends, wedding

Wednesday, December 13, 2006

Just the week past, i make a horrifying discovery. An ex-colleague, also my agent apparently mistook my wedding date for a date this month.

About 1 - 2 weeks earlier than that, i met him to indicate a change in my investment plan and had verbally mentioned to him that I intended to invite him to my wedding as the date nears. He had asked me for my cards, but apparently my cards are not ready yet.

Perhaps, he thought me to be me to be an insincere person that's why i did not give him cards even though i had verbally invited him to the dinner.

That made me wonder, what make him form this impression.

Perhaps one consolation is that, he's not a close friend?

but to be honest that's one warning bell that indicate that people does have this perception of me. While I don't think deserve this label because i have been earnest in my dealing with people whom i called friends, I also understand that I cannot stop people from gossiping or from forming such impression because they do not know me at all.

人言可未

Just like my MIL can't stop me from talking about her when she irritates me.

Labels: impression, listener, people

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

a gf once told me when i first gotten my house signed in my name that should i require any electrical appliance, i ought to let her know. This is so because her relatives are all representatives of different brands and they could help get things cheaply - so i thought if i were to buy things, then i ought to get through her because her relatives could also benefit from the sale and i might still be able to get a good deal out of it.

so i faithfully smsed her the model of the stuff i wanted to get via her, but alas none of it successful and since i needed confirmation from her whether her relatives could get it for me, i often missed the bargain - i could have gotten if i got things myself.

and so it happened again yesterday.

frankly, i think that she just got sick of it, and its one of her mood swings again because she's sounding curt and she's hermitting herself once again.

So I reckoned I'd be better off sourcing things for myself than to have to face one's moods when im happily getting things for my new house.

Anyway who wants to buy things when one's mood is soured right?

Labels: friends, mood swings, new house

Friday, December 08, 2006

Renovations is really beginning to freak me out!

This is so because for the past 2 weeks while i was still working, my maternal home started the renovations of the toilets, the kitchen and subsequently repainting the entire house, grilles and doors included.

This has led to the home becoming a warzone, with things being hauled out of their shelves, souveniers from our trip to beautiful places kept in boxes and cupboards shifted to reveal a lizard family living blissfully behind it before the move.

Needless to say, the house is hardly fit for people to live in. but I have lived here for the past 1 week and the inability to sleep at night is quite getting to me. Plus the daily cleaning after the workers have completed their work is so taking a toil on my body.

and I will be embarking on my own renovations soon enough and this has scared me off renovations.
However, if renovations is not being done on my new house, then I would think that apartment is also unfit for the living.

In traditional beliefs, it is said that with renovations you are actually clearing the old and welcoming the new, hopefully the torment is worth it.

That being said... i better go look after the renovations and start packing up my things .....

Monday, December 04, 2006

alright .. there's no cable to download my pictures.

but there's always mms r8ight?

So I went for my 2nd kua fitting *kua = traditional tea dress for traditional chinese wedding*
And here's the picture..."hot" off the phone!

Enjoy!